New Year

HAPPY 2012!!!!
So my resolutions are the same as every year "get on a workout schedule and stick to it" Yeah ummmmm, I also added one to this and it is "Not being so explosive as a person/parent" I tend to be passive aggressive and hold things in all the time because I like to "Pick my battles" this goes for Zach and in my Relationships. Problem with "picking battles" is everything becomes a battle, because you get so frustrated about every small thing when you don't address them. At least that's how it is with me! So usually what happens is this..."hmm ok thats pretty annoying, owell not worth it" "O wow...ok still not worth it" then something seriously minut happens "WHAT THE **#$@%!!!" I come off to my husband and kids as "CRAZY" because I blew up over something so small..When really it wasn't the small thing that set me off.... Even a slow dripping faucet will eventually cause the pooling water to overflow.
Ok, So to work on this I have been telling poor Joel everything that is bugging me but staying calm. "Are you really going to leave all this on the table for me to throw away tomorrow?" "It is really bugging me right now that......" LOL. So far I don't really think he cares or notices my comments, and I feel so much better!!!! As far as Zach goes I implemented not "exploding" tonight on him. Joel pointed out "one" of the kids wrote "zach" on the wall and scribbled. I asked him why he did this. It was in his handwritting....hello..I know it was him. "I didn't do it" I asked him again. Same answer. I asked why he was lying? He said "I scribbled but I didn't write the name" Usually by this time I have unleashed some form of fury LOL. But tonight I just said that "I didn't appreciate him lying and he can sit in his room until he is ready to tell the truth and clean the wall" He went to his room for 10 min then came out and said he was ready to talk and said Sorry. I explained that his behavior was very bad because now he is in trouble for lying and for drawing on the wall.
Anyway, he cleaned it so its all good and I don't need to apologize for yelling at him!
YAY KUDOS TO ME!!!!!
*Disclaimer. I do not yell a lot. But I realize I need to take the MINIMAL yelling down to NEVER yelling. I feel it is more effective.