Wednesday, October 27, 2010
My Mr Smartie!
Zachie is writting so good! I just love it! He did this tonight himself. For those that don't know my boyfriends daughter is Zoey. He's so cute. He didn't even ask me how to spell it. Smartie pants! I caught him red handed....
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Parenting
No wonder they have a magazine dedicated to it. I NEED ADVICE, ALL THE TIME!
I am writting about this because its whats on my mind right now.
Being a single parent is really all I have ever known. I knew it was going to be difficult but I didn't realize how difficult. I got divorced from Zach's daddy when Zach was 9 months old. I lived with my parents for 6 months after that. Since this time when Zach was almost 1 1/2 years old, I have had my own place. I was torn with discipline because I didn't have anyone to fall back onto. I have been very hard on Zach. I have never been able to say "Im telling your dad when he gets home"... Although I think my X and I parent very well in seperate places. I am not saying that. We discipline the same so Zach knows what is expected. This being said. Being a single parent SUCKS!!!!!!!
I always feel I have already let Zach down. I have put him in this situation of not having both parents in the home at all times & have just expected him to deal with it. I get frustrated with him & more times than not, It has nothing to do with him. It has everything to do with stress, money, my own relationship problems etc. I feel under constant scrutiny from my family because I have had to miss Zach's baseball/soccer games to be at work. Or because it is not my "holiday" to have him, I feel as though I am being judged. I feel like im not getting credit for being a "Full Time Parent" because I dont always have my child. But when I do have him, Its ALL ME. Always me reading to him, Always me making sure he is fed, Always me making sure he is entertained, clean, happy. Discipline is ALL me too. I feel its all or nothing, and it SUCKS.
Recently I have been reading about discipline in the home. I have some concerns about this. I read about the difference between "intrinsic" & "extrinsic" motivation. Intrinsic motivation is when people do things because they feel proud of themselves when they do it. They feel a sense of accomplishment and achievement. Extrinsic motivation is when someone does something because of external motivation. For example, they will receive money, a toy or priviledge if they do the task. If you are always rewarding your child with material things, he/she will never learn how to motivate themselves with internal rewards like pride. They also will never learn to value things because there are so many things and nothing is special.
I think I do both of these. I do reward Zach for being good while getting his picture taken or not acting up while he is with me at an appointment. But I am torn because I am constantly telling him "NO" you can't have a new movie. NO you can't have a new toy. NO you don't need a treat everytime we go to the store.
Having 2 families has its pros and cons for a child. Some of the PROS are: 2 Christmas, 2 birthdays, double toys, attention. This year we decided to not split halloween anymore. It is Jakes year. Zach keeps asking why he doesn't get 2 costumes this year for halloween. I feel he has been too spoiled this way. I dont want to have a spoiled child...
I do not think Zach is spoiled though. ??
He is so good. I know I am probably bias, but hes such a good boy & so cute too!
"Your child does not have to love you every minute of every day. He'll get over the disappointment of having been told "no." But he won't get over the effects of being spoiled" I agree with this statement. It is from Dr Phils website, where I always read about parenting. (LOL)
"It's easier to give in than to argue about it." This is a true statement. It is very hard to hold your ground about no snacking before bedtime because you didn't eat your dinner. No nightlight tonight because you got out of bed after I said NO. No drinks before bed because you had an accident a few nights ago. I hate always having to be "the bad guy" to Zach, I feel like a horrible parent :( Its Little things like this that I am constantly taking away & he is so sad. Yet I can't give in or he will continue to whine everytime... IT SUCKS! I know this isn't just a single Parent thing. This is a every PARENT thing.
I just feel like I suck. He is so forgiving of me & my faults. He is all hugs, No grudges. I love how innocent a childs love is. It is a blessing to me, and I am trying to be better.
Most of you know I have moved in with my boyfriend. He is great! & thats probably where this blog is coming from because he has a daughter & we are trying to blend our families. I feel like im starting all over & Im so insecure, and im second guessing the way I have always parented, because what works for me, may not work for us. I know others have blended families and I am grateful for everything I have. And very happy! Its just something on my mind. I just hope my best is good enough, because thats all I can do.
I am writting about this because its whats on my mind right now.
Being a single parent is really all I have ever known. I knew it was going to be difficult but I didn't realize how difficult. I got divorced from Zach's daddy when Zach was 9 months old. I lived with my parents for 6 months after that. Since this time when Zach was almost 1 1/2 years old, I have had my own place. I was torn with discipline because I didn't have anyone to fall back onto. I have been very hard on Zach. I have never been able to say "Im telling your dad when he gets home"... Although I think my X and I parent very well in seperate places. I am not saying that. We discipline the same so Zach knows what is expected. This being said. Being a single parent SUCKS!!!!!!!
I always feel I have already let Zach down. I have put him in this situation of not having both parents in the home at all times & have just expected him to deal with it. I get frustrated with him & more times than not, It has nothing to do with him. It has everything to do with stress, money, my own relationship problems etc. I feel under constant scrutiny from my family because I have had to miss Zach's baseball/soccer games to be at work. Or because it is not my "holiday" to have him, I feel as though I am being judged. I feel like im not getting credit for being a "Full Time Parent" because I dont always have my child. But when I do have him, Its ALL ME. Always me reading to him, Always me making sure he is fed, Always me making sure he is entertained, clean, happy. Discipline is ALL me too. I feel its all or nothing, and it SUCKS.
Recently I have been reading about discipline in the home. I have some concerns about this. I read about the difference between "intrinsic" & "extrinsic" motivation. Intrinsic motivation is when people do things because they feel proud of themselves when they do it. They feel a sense of accomplishment and achievement. Extrinsic motivation is when someone does something because of external motivation. For example, they will receive money, a toy or priviledge if they do the task. If you are always rewarding your child with material things, he/she will never learn how to motivate themselves with internal rewards like pride. They also will never learn to value things because there are so many things and nothing is special.
I think I do both of these. I do reward Zach for being good while getting his picture taken or not acting up while he is with me at an appointment. But I am torn because I am constantly telling him "NO" you can't have a new movie. NO you can't have a new toy. NO you don't need a treat everytime we go to the store.
Having 2 families has its pros and cons for a child. Some of the PROS are: 2 Christmas, 2 birthdays, double toys, attention. This year we decided to not split halloween anymore. It is Jakes year. Zach keeps asking why he doesn't get 2 costumes this year for halloween. I feel he has been too spoiled this way. I dont want to have a spoiled child...
I do not think Zach is spoiled though. ??
He is so good. I know I am probably bias, but hes such a good boy & so cute too!
"Your child does not have to love you every minute of every day. He'll get over the disappointment of having been told "no." But he won't get over the effects of being spoiled" I agree with this statement. It is from Dr Phils website, where I always read about parenting. (LOL)
"It's easier to give in than to argue about it." This is a true statement. It is very hard to hold your ground about no snacking before bedtime because you didn't eat your dinner. No nightlight tonight because you got out of bed after I said NO. No drinks before bed because you had an accident a few nights ago. I hate always having to be "the bad guy" to Zach, I feel like a horrible parent :( Its Little things like this that I am constantly taking away & he is so sad. Yet I can't give in or he will continue to whine everytime... IT SUCKS! I know this isn't just a single Parent thing. This is a every PARENT thing.
I just feel like I suck. He is so forgiving of me & my faults. He is all hugs, No grudges. I love how innocent a childs love is. It is a blessing to me, and I am trying to be better.
Most of you know I have moved in with my boyfriend. He is great! & thats probably where this blog is coming from because he has a daughter & we are trying to blend our families. I feel like im starting all over & Im so insecure, and im second guessing the way I have always parented, because what works for me, may not work for us. I know others have blended families and I am grateful for everything I have. And very happy! Its just something on my mind. I just hope my best is good enough, because thats all I can do.
Monday, October 18, 2010
My answers!
For anyone who read it but didn't comment here are my answers. Hah. I forgot all about this...
1.After I had my son Zach I had no bladder control and pee'd my pants at Target at the checkout because I sneezed, it was really bad because I did not have zach with me, so I just looked like I had major issues!
This is a fib! After i had my son I didn't have any bladder control. That is true, But I only pee'd my pants at my own house. Luckily!
2.In my last relationship I sent one of my friends to hit on my boyfriend to see how he would react to her. He was rude to her but she told me he wasn't and then I didn't know who to believe anyway!!!!!
This is a fib! I would not be in a relationship with someone if I didn't trust them. Who seriously does this???? haha.
3.When I was a small one, about zachs age I would stick ABC gum everywhere and never throw it away so my mom grounded me from it. I did not like this so I started to steal gum from the grocery store and eat it all behind the shed at my house so my mom didn't know.
This is Truth! I would put the entire gum package in my mouth and chew it for a min so my mom wouldn't catch me. I would steal her gum from her purse or anywhere. Behind the shed. LOL like a smoker or something...
4.While married & pissed at my husband I got online to his fantasy baseball league and sent a bunch of trade requests because I was sick of him spending so much time online.
This is fib! Obviously I was pissed at my husband for being online and having 8 fantasy leagues one year. But I didn't log onto his account!
5.One time at college me and my roommates decided to play a game to see who could drink the most water in an hour. I lost. But my roommate ended up going to the ER....I guess that means she's the winner?
Fib! This actually happened to my neighbor!
6.I keep an avid journal and write details about my relationship and when that relationship has come to an end, and I am over it I write the person from that "chapter" a letter, with everything I want to say and give it to them. Then burn the "chapter"....Closure.
Fib! I do keep an avid journal. Not so much anymore. But I used to. And I do have detailed things in them. I have written a "letter" to my X's... in the journal. And left it in there.. Under any circumstance would I ever give a letter to my X. I am a firm believer in making them think you don't care! Hah. However I probably would like to get into the state of mind and burn all 11 of my journals asap. I wouldn't like Zach to read them!!!
So there ya go!:)
1.After I had my son Zach I had no bladder control and pee'd my pants at Target at the checkout because I sneezed, it was really bad because I did not have zach with me, so I just looked like I had major issues!
This is a fib! After i had my son I didn't have any bladder control. That is true, But I only pee'd my pants at my own house. Luckily!
2.In my last relationship I sent one of my friends to hit on my boyfriend to see how he would react to her. He was rude to her but she told me he wasn't and then I didn't know who to believe anyway!!!!!
This is a fib! I would not be in a relationship with someone if I didn't trust them. Who seriously does this???? haha.
3.When I was a small one, about zachs age I would stick ABC gum everywhere and never throw it away so my mom grounded me from it. I did not like this so I started to steal gum from the grocery store and eat it all behind the shed at my house so my mom didn't know.
This is Truth! I would put the entire gum package in my mouth and chew it for a min so my mom wouldn't catch me. I would steal her gum from her purse or anywhere. Behind the shed. LOL like a smoker or something...
4.While married & pissed at my husband I got online to his fantasy baseball league and sent a bunch of trade requests because I was sick of him spending so much time online.
This is fib! Obviously I was pissed at my husband for being online and having 8 fantasy leagues one year. But I didn't log onto his account!
5.One time at college me and my roommates decided to play a game to see who could drink the most water in an hour. I lost. But my roommate ended up going to the ER....I guess that means she's the winner?
Fib! This actually happened to my neighbor!
6.I keep an avid journal and write details about my relationship and when that relationship has come to an end, and I am over it I write the person from that "chapter" a letter, with everything I want to say and give it to them. Then burn the "chapter"....Closure.
Fib! I do keep an avid journal. Not so much anymore. But I used to. And I do have detailed things in them. I have written a "letter" to my X's... in the journal. And left it in there.. Under any circumstance would I ever give a letter to my X. I am a firm believer in making them think you don't care! Hah. However I probably would like to get into the state of mind and burn all 11 of my journals asap. I wouldn't like Zach to read them!!!
So there ya go!:)
Friday, October 15, 2010
5 fibs 1 truth about ME!
So I got tagged by my cousin on her blog... this one!!!
To do this...
to be honest I probably was going to steal it anyway because I liked it. But thanks Mandi, Now I do not have to be a theif in my blog!!!!
It is 5 fibs 1 truth about me.
1.After I had my son Zach I had no bladder control and pee'd my pants at Target at the checkout because I sneezed, it was really bad because I did not have zach with me, so I just looked like I had major issues!
2.In my last relationship I sent one of my friends to hit on my boyfriend to see how he would react to her. He was rude to her but she told me he wasn't and then I didn't know who to believe anyway!!!!!
3.When I was a small one, about zachs age I would stick ABC gum everywhere and never throw it away so my mom grounded me from it. I did not like this so I started to steal gum from the grocery store and eat it all behind the shed at my house so my mom didn't know.
4.While married & pissed at my husband I got online to his fantasy baseball league and sent a bunch of trade requests because I was sick of him spending so much time online.
5.One time at college me and my roommates decided to play a game to see who could drink the most water in an hour. I lost. But my roommate ended up going to the ER....I guess that means she's the winner?
6.I keep an avid journal and write details about my relationship and when that relationship has come to an end, and I am over it I write the person from that "chapter" a letter, with everything I want to say and give it to them. Then burn the "chapter"....Closure.
I really would like it if
Linds
Andi &
My sisty did this....
But anyone can do it. its fun + I did say you can so you aren't stealing!
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Kiss the Cook
Last week I:
*Worked 70 hours
*Got written up :P
*Cried 4 times... LOL
*Threw a mani tantrum 3 times
*Almost backed into the tree in our front yard when leaving in the morning
*Ran 2 red lights...
*Read the same book to Zach 128 times (yes im exaggerating!!! The Incredible Book Eating Boy) Must read. So cute!
*Stopped my diet :( Not at the weight I was hoping for but still down 16lbs. It was too difficult to stay on while moving because you have to plan every meal and there was too much going on. FAIL :(
*Didn't go to the gym
*Zach spilled chocolate milk on my new hand wash only rug... sweet!
*dyed my hair
*Struggled with this sign:
I love it. I picked the colors and the font and all that...Well pretty sure putting up vinyl is harder than it looks, and this is crooked LOL... Its not terribly noticable so Im leaving it. But I was freaking out. Hence one of my mini tantrums...
But now I am off to figure out what to cook. Since I actually have people to cook for now!! I ♥ it!!!!
*Worked 70 hours
*Got written up :P
*Cried 4 times... LOL
*Threw a mani tantrum 3 times
*Almost backed into the tree in our front yard when leaving in the morning
*Ran 2 red lights...
*Read the same book to Zach 128 times (yes im exaggerating!!! The Incredible Book Eating Boy) Must read. So cute!
*Stopped my diet :( Not at the weight I was hoping for but still down 16lbs. It was too difficult to stay on while moving because you have to plan every meal and there was too much going on. FAIL :(
*Didn't go to the gym
*Zach spilled chocolate milk on my new hand wash only rug... sweet!
*dyed my hair
*Struggled with this sign:
I love it. I picked the colors and the font and all that...Well pretty sure putting up vinyl is harder than it looks, and this is crooked LOL... Its not terribly noticable so Im leaving it. But I was freaking out. Hence one of my mini tantrums...
But now I am off to figure out what to cook. Since I actually have people to cook for now!! I ♥ it!!!!
Thursday, September 30, 2010
SERIOUSLY?
Ok for real. It is the 21st century. Dont you think this moving thing is a bit barbaric? I DO! Can't we do something else besides throwing all of our shit into a box and moving it from point A to point B??? There has to be a better way.........
LOL wishful thinking. I am sick to death of moving. Everytime I move I throw away so much stuff and then again and again. Where is all this shit coming from?????????
Lord help me. I have 2 days left to be out of this apartment and I think 219 dust bunnies moved in when I tried to move out.
;)
LOL wishful thinking. I am sick to death of moving. Everytime I move I throw away so much stuff and then again and again. Where is all this shit coming from?????????
Lord help me. I have 2 days left to be out of this apartment and I think 219 dust bunnies moved in when I tried to move out.
;)
Thursday, September 23, 2010
i heart him
My cute boyfriend.
We are moving in and of course have to be out by the 1st (Which in my case turned into the 4th bc my landlord is a major B, and although I told her I would be out... i didn't give written notice until the 4th... DO NOT GET ME STARTED.. and she is prorating the rent for the 4 days as well....)
Anyway...
He took work off today and moved everything from his whole apartment except kitchen stuff and big stuff since he'd need help. He tells me he is basically done and now can help me, Because last time I checked im pretty sure I haven't lifted a finger towards moving :(
He also is going to fix my *$&#*$ car this weekend because it decided that with so much going on it would fail emissions.
I also just adore him because he calls me beautiful in the morning & he tells me 'iloveyou' in his sleep. I also LOVEEEEEEEE and this might be my favorite thing.... How at Zachie's baseball games his eyes light up. LOVE IT!
I am happy and was leaving my X's house. He says.. "Hey. did I miss something?"... "uh. No"... "Well Did i do something stupid... ".... (Hahaha. DO NOT open that box...)... "Uh. No."... "Well you are acting funny.".... "Well this is what me, happy, looks like........." ........ "Uh.. Ok Cya" LMAO!!!!!!!! He didn't recognize that behavior from me. LOL
Today I did take a box from work though to pack. It is sitting in the middle of the floor....empty.
Can I just say that moving is the most overwhelming thing to me. I dont even have alot of stuff to go through. Ive only lived here for 1yr and 4 months. I just dont know where to begin.
We went to have dinner at our new place tonight. Ummm no plates. forks. cups or any pans to cook. Haha. We had to go buy plastic stuff & we ate in camping chairs. Technically Together we could stay at 3 different places now. But this is not a Motel 6. It sucks!!!! One place has Nothing except a bed. One place has Stuff, Kinda. but no furniture and One place has everything you need in some kind of jumbled fashion so you cannot find it. I seriously stopped cleaning over a week ago because I am stressed out. LOL.......this didn't help!!!!
I lie. I did throw a bunch of crap into a big box for the garbage. But I can't lift it. How productive of me.
Anyway, you may or may not hear from me until I have FINISHED MOVE #11. Yes. #11!!!
and I will totally spare you posting the video with those cheesy lyrics "movin on up... to the east side. movin on up. I finally got a piece of that pie..."
Mmmmm pie........
We are moving in and of course have to be out by the 1st (Which in my case turned into the 4th bc my landlord is a major B, and although I told her I would be out... i didn't give written notice until the 4th... DO NOT GET ME STARTED.. and she is prorating the rent for the 4 days as well....)
Anyway...
He took work off today and moved everything from his whole apartment except kitchen stuff and big stuff since he'd need help. He tells me he is basically done and now can help me, Because last time I checked im pretty sure I haven't lifted a finger towards moving :(
He also is going to fix my *$&#*$ car this weekend because it decided that with so much going on it would fail emissions.
I also just adore him because he calls me beautiful in the morning & he tells me 'iloveyou' in his sleep. I also LOVEEEEEEEE and this might be my favorite thing.... How at Zachie's baseball games his eyes light up. LOVE IT!
I am happy and was leaving my X's house. He says.. "Hey. did I miss something?"... "uh. No"... "Well Did i do something stupid... ".... (Hahaha. DO NOT open that box...)... "Uh. No."... "Well you are acting funny.".... "Well this is what me, happy, looks like........." ........ "Uh.. Ok Cya" LMAO!!!!!!!! He didn't recognize that behavior from me. LOL
Today I did take a box from work though to pack. It is sitting in the middle of the floor....empty.
Can I just say that moving is the most overwhelming thing to me. I dont even have alot of stuff to go through. Ive only lived here for 1yr and 4 months. I just dont know where to begin.
We went to have dinner at our new place tonight. Ummm no plates. forks. cups or any pans to cook. Haha. We had to go buy plastic stuff & we ate in camping chairs. Technically Together we could stay at 3 different places now. But this is not a Motel 6. It sucks!!!! One place has Nothing except a bed. One place has Stuff, Kinda. but no furniture and One place has everything you need in some kind of jumbled fashion so you cannot find it. I seriously stopped cleaning over a week ago because I am stressed out. LOL.......this didn't help!!!!
I lie. I did throw a bunch of crap into a big box for the garbage. But I can't lift it. How productive of me.
Anyway, you may or may not hear from me until I have FINISHED MOVE #11. Yes. #11!!!
and I will totally spare you posting the video with those cheesy lyrics "movin on up... to the east side. movin on up. I finally got a piece of that pie..."
Mmmmm pie........
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
TRY THIS!
Oh my!!!! So my coffee problem-o was just solved!
I was not liking Black Coffee
I was not liking Unsweetened Tea
I was not liking Stevia, Truvia etc.
I was not liking that I can't have Starbucks Seasonal Coffees. What kind of punishment is this?
So I heard that if you put a tea bag in your coffee maker it will flavor your coffee.
HOGWASH I thought because tea has to steep for a few minutes. Well I did it today with a peppermint tea bag.
IT WORKED LIKE A CHARM!!!!!
Now I can have my coffee and tea at the same time :) Plus my bath. Because lets face it I like all my addictions in one place so I tend to take coffee & music into the bathtub with me. I cannot help it!
On another note. I AM FINALLY MOVING!!!!!!!!!!
TOWNHOUSE IS > APARTMENT! Can't wait to decorate :)
I was not liking Black Coffee
I was not liking Unsweetened Tea
I was not liking Stevia, Truvia etc.
I was not liking that I can't have Starbucks Seasonal Coffees. What kind of punishment is this?
So I heard that if you put a tea bag in your coffee maker it will flavor your coffee.
HOGWASH I thought because tea has to steep for a few minutes. Well I did it today with a peppermint tea bag.
IT WORKED LIKE A CHARM!!!!!
Now I can have my coffee and tea at the same time :) Plus my bath. Because lets face it I like all my addictions in one place so I tend to take coffee & music into the bathtub with me. I cannot help it!
On another note. I AM FINALLY MOVING!!!!!!!!!!
TOWNHOUSE IS > APARTMENT! Can't wait to decorate :)
Thursday, September 16, 2010
Diet update
Hey its me speaking from HELL........
It is my 10th day of the HCG diet, I am in hell. I dont feel like ive had results from how hard it is to follow this diet. I have lost 9 pounds. Haha. I realize that is a Lb a day. But It came off really quick at first and this week has been pretty much a stand still. I can tell a slight difference in my face. The HCG is suppose to target your problem areas. Apparently HCG views my face as a problem.. along with my chest. Bc I know I shrunk there too! The places I view as problems apparently aren't!!! I told myself I would stay on it for 6 weeks at first so I have a long ways to go. I at least need to give it til the first week of Oct. Im telling you I am not wearing a fat suit this Halloween! Joel, my Bf.. calls it the Hot Call Girl diet. hahaha. I wish I was his call girl ;) He's been trying to support me on it and eat overall healthy. I feel like he's lost more weight than me :(
This is why I decided dieting is so hard. Because human nature is to want things we cannot have. Im a natural born rebel.. So if someone says "dont do this" Im way more likely to want to... to think about it all the time...a nd then to do it! Maybe thats just me. But I have wanted to eat things on this diet that I never would want if I weren't dieting. Just because I CAN'T I want it that much more!!! Ie: Ramen Noodles with Pepperoni in it. I dont even like Ramen. I buy Pepperoni to put on my salads and in Pasta bakes. But now I want it in Ramen with Ranch. I dont even like Ranch. And what I just described eating is gross. But I still want it right now! Also. I am not pregnant. But I wanted to make a Peanut butter and turkey Sandwich earlier! :(
Hahahaha. This made me laugh...
& Here's to day 11.... FML.
It is my 10th day of the HCG diet, I am in hell. I dont feel like ive had results from how hard it is to follow this diet. I have lost 9 pounds. Haha. I realize that is a Lb a day. But It came off really quick at first and this week has been pretty much a stand still. I can tell a slight difference in my face. The HCG is suppose to target your problem areas. Apparently HCG views my face as a problem.. along with my chest. Bc I know I shrunk there too! The places I view as problems apparently aren't!!! I told myself I would stay on it for 6 weeks at first so I have a long ways to go. I at least need to give it til the first week of Oct. Im telling you I am not wearing a fat suit this Halloween! Joel, my Bf.. calls it the Hot Call Girl diet. hahaha. I wish I was his call girl ;) He's been trying to support me on it and eat overall healthy. I feel like he's lost more weight than me :(
This is why I decided dieting is so hard. Because human nature is to want things we cannot have. Im a natural born rebel.. So if someone says "dont do this" Im way more likely to want to... to think about it all the time...a nd then to do it! Maybe thats just me. But I have wanted to eat things on this diet that I never would want if I weren't dieting. Just because I CAN'T I want it that much more!!! Ie: Ramen Noodles with Pepperoni in it. I dont even like Ramen. I buy Pepperoni to put on my salads and in Pasta bakes. But now I want it in Ramen with Ranch. I dont even like Ranch. And what I just described eating is gross. But I still want it right now! Also. I am not pregnant. But I wanted to make a Peanut butter and turkey Sandwich earlier! :(
Hahahaha. This made me laugh...
& Here's to day 11.... FML.
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Sinner?
Does anyone else have issues with their parents? Apparently they hate me now.
Namely my mother. She is so Black/White. She is disapointed in me to the Umph degree for choosing to move in with my boyfriend in 3 weeks. People do this all the time....
Something about rushing it. Well weve been dating for a year now. My X was married for 10 months already at that time. Rushing to get married is ok. But dating someone for a year then moving in is NOT. ????????????????????????????
Something about me giving Zach permission to shack up. Well mom im pretty sure last time I checked he didn't need permission from me to live with someone. Especially at the age of 28... She can't be serious?
Something about she thought I would want to have a good family someday and teach them right from wrong. Pretty sure I can have a good family if we are not active LDS. Does she realize alot of familes outside of Utah raise good successful children with no church background? iguessnot. Also pretty sure I would teach them right from wrong. Just not in a classroom setting. Really mom?
Something about my sister and I ruining the long line of believers in the family because none of her offspring or their offspring will follow in it. I am pretty sure I have let Zach go to church with his father since day 1. I do not care if he goes or doesn't go. I don't care if he chooses to go on a mission/get married in the temple. I am proud of him and his life. He is a good boy so far (mwahaha). She can't support me? I do not do anything to hurt anyone or myself.
Something about how I am confusing Zach. His dad follows the church and I do not. Well I think its good for him honestly, To be able to see that everyone is not one way. And its OK to be yourself. And however you ARE. is OK.
Something about the 10 commandments being set in stone from hundreds of years bc.I couldn't remember what they all were LOL I just looked them up. hahaha.... Im not sure why she even said that now. The only one I dont do is keeping the sabbath day holy. I have not done anything to any neighbor LOL. btw Drinking Coffee/Tea/Wine isn't a problem. Coffee/Tea/Wine are good for your body. When I was married since it states something about consuming hot beverages I would get Iced Coffee & Tea. This would tick my X right off. Yet he never could tell me why that rule was even in there.
Also something about her thinking I would "come around"... Excuse me. I went to an LDS church for 22 years of my life. I have come around. hahaha. Sorry I am really not trying to offend anyone. Since I have my choice of free agency I am using it. The church even wants me to do that, Yet she's pissed?
Have a good day everyone~
Namely my mother. She is so Black/White. She is disapointed in me to the Umph degree for choosing to move in with my boyfriend in 3 weeks. People do this all the time....
Something about rushing it. Well weve been dating for a year now. My X was married for 10 months already at that time. Rushing to get married is ok. But dating someone for a year then moving in is NOT. ????????????????????????????
Something about me giving Zach permission to shack up. Well mom im pretty sure last time I checked he didn't need permission from me to live with someone. Especially at the age of 28... She can't be serious?
Something about she thought I would want to have a good family someday and teach them right from wrong. Pretty sure I can have a good family if we are not active LDS. Does she realize alot of familes outside of Utah raise good successful children with no church background? iguessnot. Also pretty sure I would teach them right from wrong. Just not in a classroom setting. Really mom?
Something about my sister and I ruining the long line of believers in the family because none of her offspring or their offspring will follow in it. I am pretty sure I have let Zach go to church with his father since day 1. I do not care if he goes or doesn't go. I don't care if he chooses to go on a mission/get married in the temple. I am proud of him and his life. He is a good boy so far (mwahaha). She can't support me? I do not do anything to hurt anyone or myself.
Something about how I am confusing Zach. His dad follows the church and I do not. Well I think its good for him honestly, To be able to see that everyone is not one way. And its OK to be yourself. And however you ARE. is OK.
Something about the 10 commandments being set in stone from hundreds of years bc.I couldn't remember what they all were LOL I just looked them up. hahaha.... Im not sure why she even said that now. The only one I dont do is keeping the sabbath day holy. I have not done anything to any neighbor LOL. btw Drinking Coffee/Tea/Wine isn't a problem. Coffee/Tea/Wine are good for your body. When I was married since it states something about consuming hot beverages I would get Iced Coffee & Tea. This would tick my X right off. Yet he never could tell me why that rule was even in there.
Also something about her thinking I would "come around"... Excuse me. I went to an LDS church for 22 years of my life. I have come around. hahaha. Sorry I am really not trying to offend anyone. Since I have my choice of free agency I am using it. The church even wants me to do that, Yet she's pissed?
Have a good day everyone~
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